Life is... Compromise
We often don't realise how compromising can actually make our lives better
Oh oh! I can see those eyebrows getting raised and the looks of scepticism on some faces! Why in the world would I be writing about compromises? Well, whether we like it or not, compromise is an undeniable part of life. But unfortunately, it’s a word that has faced much disdain and scorn, leading many to believe that it has no place in our progressive, modern lives. It’s also one of the most misunderstood words of our vocabulary today.
Compromise is a way of settling differences by everybody making concessions. There are a few things to understand here. First, the word ‘everybody’, which means that compromise is never one-sided. Second, it’s about ‘settling differences’. No one can agree with everyone at all points in time. Hence, there will always be situations where adjustments will be required. What is important is that it should be done with a healthy, positive attitude, and with the objective of taking us forward, instead of regressing. Else it’s not compromising, but coercing, forcing, compelling or nagging!
A really nice article that I read about Compromise. Take a look:
Now that we have got misconceptions out of the way, we need to know what to look out for as well! Never, never compromise on your core values. In our heart of hearts, we know what is right and we should not be giving that up for anyone or anything. Compromise is a two-way street where both parties look out for each other. It is driven by love, empathy and positivity. So let’s never get ourselves in a position where we are being taken advantage of. Always compromise ‘in spite of’ and not ‘because of’. If our actions are driven by fear, pressure or hopelessness, it would mean we are giving up, not compromising.
If we know all this, then why does compromising feel so difficult or even wrong? Here are some things that I have learnt along the way:
Reset expectations. Better yet, do away with them. Life will pleasantly surprise us!
Be flexible to change. Every day can be a new beginning, if we let it.
Communication is key. So many issues would resolve themselves if only we spoke our thoughts.
Give compliments like there is no tomorrow. Appreciate people, actions, places. Say a kind word. Maybe we won’t need to compromise at all!
Most importantly, let go. Don’t pull the past into the present. Forgiveness in its true sense is the most powerful tool we have. Contrary to common belief, it actually strengthens us, not the other way around.
No life is without challenges. But every life has a deadline (excuse the pun!). The right compromises make our lives content and happy – surrounded by people who matter to us. We owe it to ourselves to give it our best shot. And in those few situations where compromise seems to elude us: Smile, agree to disagree and carry on… living!!!
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That first paragraph was smack on Radhika! I could feel my eyebrows going up involuntarily, haha. I agree tho….compromise eventually makes the life fuller and more worthwhile…love this one too!
Well written Radhika. In a strong, mature and sustainable relationship, I feel that a softer phrase like sense of understanding could perhaps replace a harsher word like compromise.